So I have not written a blog entry in a while, and I thought it was past due.
I really felt the urge to write a blog of encouraging words to expecting mothers based on my experience. First let me start off by saying that I am currently 32.5 weeks pregnant with our second little girl. Eden, our first, is now 2 years old. Here is me today...
When we were expecting with Eden, I had a birth plan that was all mapped out, and I prayed everyday for her. My husband and I were so excited! We could not wait to meet our little one. We decided not to find out her gender until birth, so not only were we excited about meeting our little one, but we were totally clueless on whether it was a boy or a girl!
Everyone and their mom told me their birth story! And after that, I told myself that I really did not want a c-section, but I was not worried about it. After all, my family has naturally great childbearing hips. I was always told that I was built to have babies. After all I am related to the woman who wrote Cheaper By The Dozen! In her book she talks about inheriting the "Galbraith hips" and guess what? That's my great aunt Galbraith she is talking about! Anyways, I was pretty certain I did not have to worry about having a cesarean. However, when I went in at 34 weeks to see the doctor, Eden was breech. No big deal though, right? She still has plenty of time to flip... 36, still breech, 38.... breech. I was doing everything I could to help flip the baby, except have her turned manually by the doctors (that scared me too much). I was going to the chiropractor, and doing handstands in the pool, and every exercise on Spinningbabies.com. Nothing would turn her. We scheduled a c-section.
I was so depressed and scared. I had heard quite a few horror stories that made me really nervous. Some of my friends kept telling me, "Have faith! God will flip the baby! Have faith that He will not make you have a c-section!" I would like to say that this thought process is ridiculous. It is okay to have faith that God will work things out for the good, but to make it sound as there is only one good way for it to happen is not okay.
God tells us "'For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.'" Jeremiah 29:11. But He also says "“For My thoughts are not your thoughts, nor are your ways My ways,” says the Lord. “For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are My ways higher than your ways, and My thoughts than your thoughts." Isaiah 55:8-9. So why do so many women look at having a cesarean as a failure or a curse from God? I mean, really? Does it really matter how God gives you the blessing? I ended up having a c-section. It was AMAZING. Though the recovery was tough, the birth was beautiful and very easy. The doctor noticed when doing the procedure that I have a heart shaped uterus which made it very hard for baby to flip. 1 in 200 women have a heart shaped uterus. Here is a picture of a normal and heart shaped uterus, so you can kind of gain some understanding.
Many women (including me when I was pregnant with Eden) feel they have failed some how by not being able to deliver the way "God intended it." What a bunch of bologna! If He wants to take the baby from out of your stomach a different way, then THAT is how He intended it! If God wants to deliver a baby using the hands of a skilled surgeon, then let God's will be done! The most important thing is giving it fully to God, and trusting in His plan even if it does not match yours!
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